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criticism & blame as expressions of unmet needs

from Smitty, referencing Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (http://www.cnvc.org/).

smittened:

I was listening to the chapter on connecting our feelings to our needs today, where Rosenberg was talking about how critism and blame statements are connected to an unmet need. He spoke about this activity where you look at all the blame and critisms you use on a regular basis and then to make an obervation on what someone has done that was a stimulus for those words. And then he goes on to say…
and this is the gold:

We help them see “all criticism, all blame is a tragic expression of an unmet need.”

that we can be more truthful by saying what the need is then any words which are criticising or blaming. This is hard because most people don’t have a language of needs. But this exercise helps them so they go down the list and find the trigger and then help them translate this into an unmet need.

Apr 30, 20122 notes
#nonviolent communication #introspection #strategy #interactions
Rachel Maddow on the 25th anniversary of ACT UP → video.msnbc.msn.com

BLAMM

Apr 30, 2012
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#teramano social club #olneyville #providence #skies

aaaahhhhhh Sister Spit tour was so amazing aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh

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“This book makes the perhaps overly ambitious claim that there is such a thing as “queer time” and “queer space.” Queer uses of time and space develop, at least in part, in opposition to the institutions of family, heterosexuality, and reproduction. They also develop according to other logics of location, movement, and identification. If we try to think about queerness as an outcome of strange temporalities, imaginative life schedules, and eccentric economic practices, we detach queerness from sexual identity and come closer to understanding Foucault’s comment in “Friendship as a Way of Life” that “homosexuality threatens people as a ‘way of life’ rather than as a way of having sex” (310). In Foucault’s radical formulation, queer friendships, queer networks, and the existence of these relations in space and in relation to the use of time mark out the particularity and indeed the perceived menace of homosexual life. In this book, the queer “way of life” will encompass subcultural practices, alternative methods of alliance, forms of transgender embodiment, and those forms of representation dedicated to capturing these willfully eccentric modes of being.” —

Judith Halberstam, “Queer Temporality and Postmodern Geographies” « caring labor: an archive

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#providence #architecture #trespassing #relic
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#sign #providence #rust
Apr 25, 2012
ACT UP! 25th Anniversary Action → facebook.com

kidbijou:

queerocracy:

The AIDS crisis is NOT over but it COULD be. Join QUEEROCRACY, ACT UP and many other fed up AIDS activists Wednesday (11am @ City Hall) to demand Wall St. pay a tiny tax that could put an end to the AIDS crisis.

I’ll be joining ACT UP Rhode Island on the bus down to this action! hope to see lots of NYC queers there! [more info here]

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#working class houses #federal hill #providence
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#gpoy #working
Apr 24, 2012
#providence #architecture #adventures
I am drawing routine things

alone in my house

& thinking about disaster

tell me something to give me hope in the world

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The Biggest Student Uprising You’ve Never Heard Of → chronicle.com

hfml:

“On an unseasonably warm day in late March, a quarter of a million postsecondary students and their supporters gathered in the streets of Montreal to protest against the Liberal government’s plan to raise tuition fees by 75% over five years. As the crowd marched in seemingly endless waves from Place du Canada, dotted with the carrés rouges, or red squares, that have become the symbol of the Quebec student movement, it was plainly obvious that this demonstration was the largest in Quebec’s, and perhaps Canadian, history.

[…] So, why haven’t you heard about this yet?”

To my American (and Rest of Canada) Tumblr friends who pay huge amounts of money and are being forced into untenable debt loads: read this great article about the ongoing student strike in Quebec. As the next generation of thinkers, artists, workers, etc. we do NOT have to accept the neo-liberal austerity measures currently being shoved down our throats from our wealthy and corrupt classes. Education should be a right; not a commodity! Learn about this movement and spread your knowledge and strategies of resistance to your own campuses/cities. 

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Apr 23, 2012
#light #drawing #stairs
THAT'S SO MAJESTIC: etiquette-etc: I’m still figuring it out: Angela Davis - The Prison... → mmmajestic.tumblr.com

etiquette-etc:

I’m still figuring it out: Angela Davis - The Prison Industrial Complex (17 parts all MP3 files)

heathermck:

superheru7:

Angela Davis - The Prison Industrial Complex (17 parts all MP3 files)
01 - On Becoming An Activist.mp3 
02 - Race, Class &…

this is what I’m listening to while drawing squashes (aka butts) tonight

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#cat #laundry bag #soft john smoothie
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#39 manton ave #semi-secret

stalebis:

the next time a cis gay man tells me how gross vaginas are i’m going to stare into his soul with my dead dead eyes until he melts or god itself strikes him down and then i’m gonna choke on my own angry bile and die

misogyny and transphobia are so fierce yall

so

fucking

fierce

vomits & backflips into the sun

yup

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Western Ohms: Mothers News Vol 2 Complete Set / Contest → westernohms.tumblr.com

westernohms:

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ayo there’s only a few complete sets left of Mothers News Vol 2- if you want to catch them all, you gotta act now! Tumblrs follow and reblog for a chance to win exclusive bonus items! …

Collectors take note- each issue of Mothers News features exclusive comics from CF, Brian Chippendale,…

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DRAWING NIGHT

I am not doing any of the fun witnessing-other-people’s-creativity things in Prov tonight, just making my own work happen…. CG made popcorn… I made mint tea & bagel chips & am drinking lots of water… listening to scott’s detroit dance mix…  time to draw…

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#39 manton ave #lost #detritus
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#work/death #pharmakon #cassette #three songs of lenin
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#work/death #cassette #screenprint #three songs of lenin
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#secret door projects #work/death #screenprint #me
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secretdoorprojects.org is finally back! → secretdoorprojects.org

WHAAA so much logistics, today was computer & garden logistics day, I am in logistical mode, I am a logistical juggernaut, on to accounting & taxes & medical stuff & laundry & more accounting & …………

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This Is What Happened to CeCe → feministe.us

patchthatsweater:

This is a guest post by Redlark. Redlark is a white, lower-middle-class queer activist working a pink collar union gig in the Twin Cities. They are working with an amazing group of friends and allies of CeCe McDonald to get CeCe’s charges dropped and help her move back into her normal life.

Cece McDonald stood up to bigots and survived a hate crime. Now she’s in the county jail waiting to be tried for second degree murder.

This is a story about intersectionality – what happens when a young trans woman of color goes up against white supremacy, misogyny and transphobia. It’s a story about what happens when you have to fight for your life.

**
It began last June, the night of the 5th, when Cece and her friends – all young, black and queer – decided that they wanted to walk to the grocery store.

The grocery store in question is in south Minneapolis just off Lake Street, the busy, polluted, vital artery running from the wealthy white neighborhoods by the lakes through blocks of working class, multiracial, immigrant businesses before it ends in upmarket gentrification at the river. The grocery store is between the police station and the the light rail in a historically contested neighborhood where communities meet, mix and sometimes contend: the older white working class who bought in during the seventies and eighties meets immigrants from Mexico, Somalia and Central America who came looking for work or for political refuge; Native people still under the gun of colonization; African-Americans who’ve lived in Minneapolis for generations or arrived from Chicago or New Orleans in the last few years; students, punks and radicals, mostly but not exclusively white, gentrifiers or born in the neighborhood.

To get to the store, the group had to walk past a dive bar called the Schooner.

Dean Schmitz and his friends were standing outside the Schooner’s side door. All were older – Dean was 47 – and all were white. When they saw CeCe and her friends walk by, they started yelling – “faggots” “chicks with dicks” “n*****s” – a litany of vile abuse targeted at a group of much younger strangers.

CeCe McDonald has a strong sense of justice – she decided to confront Dean and his friends. So she and her group walked toward the bar.

**
Before we go any further, let’s talk about CeCe.

She’s 23, a college student in fashion design, a trans woman, Black, femme, very funny and widely known to be a generous person – a woman who housed and took care of her chosen family of younger queer and trans folks. Her friends call her Honee Bea.

CeCe is someone who fights for social change who even from jail has been urging her supporters to help other victims of white supremacy – including the family of Jaime Gonzalez, who was killed by the Texas police while he was at school.

She is someone who has faith in herself, in her community, in her values. “Love is inevitable and overcomes any and all things,” she writes.

CeCe and her friends are brave and tough, strong enough to walk around being visible in a world that attacks and criminalizes you if you’re young and African-American, and doubles the assault if you’re young and African-American and trans and femme.

You probably know – if you’re trans you definitely know – that trans women of color face incredible, staggering rates of violence and homicide. In most places it is essentially legal to discriminate against trans people in housing, employment and social services. As a result, trans people, especially trans women, are socially vulnerable in all kinds of ways – and vulnerable turns into “criminalized”, whether it’s because you can’t change your legal documents to match your gender or because you’re homeless and panhandling or because you’re doing sex work to make the rent…or because you have to fight to keep yourself safe

Trans people are ten to fifteen times more likely to have been incarcerated than cis people. Nearly half of all African-American trans people have spent time in the prison system.

Seventy percent of the GLBTQ people murdered in 2010 were people of color. Forty-four percent were trans women.

If you’re vulnerable, you have to wonder – will someone assault you? Will you survive? Will anyone help you? That’s a pretty heavy thing to carry around in the back of your mind every day.

***
CeCe and her friends knew the statistics, but they still dared to rebuke hatred when it spoke. They walked up the Dean Schmitz and his group, and CeCe told him that her crew would not tolerate hate speech.

But hatred hits back. One of Dean Schmitz’s friends told them, “I’ll take you bitches on,” and smashed her glass into Cece’s face, puncturing her cheek and badly lacerating her salivary gland.

There was a fight. Multiple people were involved. At the end, CeCe was on the ground in a pool of her own blood. Dean Schmitz was dead.

***
When the cops came, Cece was the only one they arrested. They took her to jail, withheld medical treatment, and sometime in the small hours got her to sign a confession. She recanted it as soon as she was able to do so.

Later, the medical examiner discovered a swastika tattoo on Dean Schmitz’s body.

***
Let’s talk about white supremacy, because this it haunts this case.

White supremacy is a system, and it runs on routine plus terror. The routine is the dull grind of discrimination – the stop-and-frisks of youth of color in the hope of finding something to get their fingerprints are in the system, the heavy policing in black neighborhoods and the heavy discipline in schools when kids of color are involved, the biased, expensive court system, the unspoken but obvious job discrimination and always, always the white supremacist narrative in mainstream culture saying that people of color deserve what they get.

And then there’s terror. Whether it’s the Jim Crow South or the modern North, it’s the knowledge that at any time you can be attacked, hurt, killed and no one will do anything. That your body, your life, your friends’ lives could always be on the line.

Terror keeps the machine humming. If you act up – if you talk back – anything might happen to you.
***
An interesting thing about prosecutor Michael Freeman: in the last year, he’s dropped charges against three people who killed accidentally while fighting for their lives. But he’s leaning on CeCe to plead guilty, and he initially persuaded the court to set her bail at an outrageous $500,000 – as if CeCe, the injured survivor of a hate crime, was some kind of risk to her community.

The court system isn’t neutral.

If you haven’t been on the wrong end of the legal system, it’s very easy to assume that the courts will sort everything out. Privileged people – white people, middle class people, cis people – can grow up identifying with the court system and with the idea of “neutrality” – especially when articulate white men in nice suits are talking. Something happened, privileged folks think, and the courts will figure it out, they’ll assign blame correctly, someone will pay a debt to society, and all’s well that ends well.

Here is what really happens: CeCe is in jail. Visiting is severely restricted, so getting a trans activist in to see her so that her friends can find her a trans-friendly lawyer is difficult. That lawyer has to work for free, because CeCe doesn’t have enough money and neither do her friends, and all her support committee’s money is going for bail. It takes a month to get meaningful treatment for injuries from the night of the attack, so her cheek swells up with a lump the size of a golf ball. She gets put in solitary “for her own protection” – which means ‘because she’s trans’ – and the support committee has to organize call-ins to get her out.

In order for a prisoner to be able to call you, you have to pay a monthly charge to a phone security service, and her friends are struggling to get work. So money has to be found for that. And the trial date has been moved once. Every time a trial date is set, her support committee mobilizes people — thirty or forty people have taken vacation days or changed their schedules so they could show up. Will it be moved again?

It’s easier and cheaper for the court system when people plead guilty, and it results in a politically-useful higher conviction rate. In the United States, the number of plea-bargains has skyrocketed in the last two decades and the number of actual trials has gone way down.

This is how the courts get people to take a plea – prisoners get tired and worn and confused and low in spirits, so they plead guilty just for a little certainty and an end to the ordeal. And many, many of those are people of color.
***

This isn’t just about CeCe. It’s about the way young women are harassed and assaulted every day in every city. It’s about the way trans women are treated as disposable and the way black youth are criminalized. It’s about the constant social violence by which white supremacy, transphobia and misogyny are maintained.

And it’s about whose experience counts. When we believe CeCe, we’re saying that we hear trans women, we hear youth of color and we believe what they say about their own lives. We name racism, we name violence, we name prejudice – and we refuse them with all the strength we have.

***
We need to get the charges against CeCe dropped. There’s precedent, the prosecutor has the authority and a victory here would be a victory for so many people – for CeCe, for her community and friends, for youth of color and trans youth who face violence and hatred. To do this, we need to get Michael Freeman to listen. We need voices. We need media.

We need to make it clear to Michael Freeman that this case is visible – we aren’t going to forget about CeCe no matter how often the trial gets moved, and we aren’t going to forget about any miscarriage of justice, either.

You can call Michael Freeman at 612-348-5540, fax at 612-348-2042, and email at citizeninfo@co.hennepin.mn.us

Remember to remain polite but don’t be afraid to be assertive. Some key points to mention in your calls, emails, and faxes are:

*Identify yourself as a supporter, friend, family member, or community member calling about Ms. Chrishaun McDonald’s case.

*Tell the County Attorney’s Office why you’re concerned: Ms. McDonald was the target of a hate crime, but she was singled out for aggressive prosecution after the attack.

*County Attorney Freeman has declined to press charges in cases like this at least three times already this year. Remind him that he has the power to drop the charges against Ms. McDonald.

Tell Freeman not to side with Ms. McDonald’s white supremacist attackers: drop the charges against Ms. McDonald.

For more information and new developments: www.supportcece.wordpress.com. You can sign the petition calling for Michael Freeman to drop CeCe’s charges here.

Emphasis mine.

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